Polish people are regarded as pessimists and malocntents. They are usually dissatisfied with life, they have a strong sense of wrong and they are convinced that all th calamities happen only to them, of course unjustly.
Therefore, they have a right to complain, to be querulous and to lay claims to everything. At the same time they are egoists envious of people who are more self-contented and more successful than them.
According to many philosophers, everyone can achieve happiness in life. It depends only on ourselves. However, most Polish people are even afraid of calling themselves happy. When an American is asked about his frame of mind, he invariably answers: "I am fine. Everything is okay". A Pole says: "I feel rotten. Everything is going wrong" even if he has just bought a new Mercedes. Such negative thinking, so typical of Polish people, brings about difficulties in achieving a state of satisfaction.
It seems that the best way to become more optimistic is to accept and make friends with oneself. People who consider themselves less clever, less interesting or less successful than the others are never likely to be happy.
American doctors have invented a simple therapy which helps change the negative attitude towards oneself. You stand before a mirror, look at your own reflection and repeat to yourself: "I am great. I am satisfied with life". You say this with a deep conviction, not laughing at yourself and not being ashamed. This might be stupid or childish for someone, but I swear it really works.
Another essential thing is this therapy is to realize that you are not the hub of the universe and that there are many people aroung you who are less fortunate than you are.
Instead of coplaining, you should try to be more active. Remember that happiness overlooks passive or lazy people.
Do not except others to solve your problems or to make you happy. Seek happiness on your own account.
Work out a positive attitude towards life. Happiness is of course desirable but do not delude yourself that it is a permament state. Fortune is fickle but never give up when something goes wrong.
Do not be so strained. You can always have a break and ease off a little. Remember that optimists live longer, so enjoy life and always keep smiling.